The “Should-be” Content for a Modern Ketubah
Ketubah is the one of the most important traditional customs during a Jewish wedding because this symbolizes a Jewish marriage contract. Ketubah should be signed by the wedding couples in front of the rabbi and their witnesses because this is part of their wedding ceremony. But with the modern world today where many couples don’t really follow any traditions, or those that are not religious or interfaith couples and even those who belong to the LGBT community, create their own version of modern Ketubah as part of their wedding ceremony.
The content of a Ketubah or Ketubot for plural term is the newly wed couple’s vows and promises including responsibilities for each other through a written version. A Ketubah is an artistically framed document that is basically seen on the walls of the couple’s home to serve as a reminder for both of them on what love is all about. A pre-nuptial agreement can also take effect with the use of modern Ketubah. It has been proven that at least 20% of the married people who failed in their first wedding prefer to have a pre-nuptial agreement for their second marriage so as to be prepared to whatever might happen in their relationship.
Some of the guidelines that you can use for you to create your own modern ketubah version for your contemporary Jewish wedding are the following:
To start off, you need to know what designs, styles, type of artwork and text you would like your Ketubah to have and if it even fits you and your partner’s preferences. You can ask for suggestions and help from you rabbi since they are more experienced in terms of wedding ceremonies as well as being part of the wedding ceremony per se. Hiring a mediator to help you out in putting up the agreement is also a very wise thing to do. You can ask them to assist you in understanding your partner’s needs and wants and vice versa.
This agreement is also used to serve as a traditional reason to protect the welfare of the woman or wife and the future children of the couple. Ketubah also serves as a document that guarantees the financial support from the father when divorce is filed in the future and it also serves a way for the man not to ignore a woman.
Since married couples write their vows, writing it in their own Ketubah text is more beautiful. This marriage contract should be written from the heart. It is important that you write everything including the love you feel for your partner and your promises and vows not to hurt and leave the person.
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